As I said on the home page, it really isn’t all that easy describing a person in just a few sentences … even if that person is oneself. It becomes more difficult when one feels bashful talking about themselves. I see all the ‘I’s and ‘me’s and I think I am being awfully arrogant. However, since the whole point of this site is to let people know who I am, I guess I need to suck it up.
So who IS (this) Steve Kramer? I will try to draw an adequate picture, though it seems to me that the only way to truly KNOW someone is to see the world through their eyes. The first thing to understand is I am no fan of labels. Most people want life be divided into clearly organized and easily understood categories, yet life rarely obliges. I also have a natural antipathy to most ‘ism’s. They are just another way of forcing people into boxes. I do not only live ‘outside the box’, I do my best to eliminate the box altogether. To make the self description process a tad easier, I will try to squeeze myself into some of the better known boxes people focus on. Labels do have a FEW uses.
The Physical Me
I identify as a heterosexual male, though to me both gender and sexual orientation are a spectrum, and basically nobody’s business but our own. I stand about 5′ 9″ (175 cm), though I swear that at one point I was 5’11” (180 cm). I tend to weigh more than I should, but this varies drastically depending on how determined I am to maintain a healthy weight. When I let my hair grow in (I usually keep it shaved), it is sort of auburn with a healthy influx of grey. I usually have a tightly cut goatee and mustache. My eyes are hazel. If asked what race I am, I will inevitably reply human (though technically human is a species, not a race), because I find the question meaningless. As far as ethnicity, I would have to go with ‘mutt’. I could go to one of those DNA mapping places, but they are often more about profit than accuracy, and I question the wisdom of handing DNA samples to profit driven corporations in this society governed by greed.
The ‘We do not discuss these in polite company’ Me
I was raised in a Jewish household. As I learned more about the world, I became an agnostic … with leanings toward atheism. While religion may have once played a useful role in the development of society, I personally believe that looking at human development as a whole … religion has done much more harm than good. Organized religions are about control, not spirituality. If one wants to seek the truth about the messages that various religions offer, then look at where they agree. The rest is just manipulation and indoctrination.
Politically speaking, I would probably be labeled extremely liberal. That said, I am also a firm believer in: “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it!” I think that political differences have less to do with liberal vs. conservative and more to do with the purpose government serves in the first place. The ‘right’ sees government as a force to control people. The ‘left’ sees government as a servant TO the people. As long as theses extremes exist, their will be very little agreement between the two sides. I am strongly ‘left’ on this point. Economics follow the same pattern. People either see society as a tool to grow the economy, or the economy as a tool to grow society. Again there is little middle ground here. Yep, I am strongly ‘left’ here as well.
The Philosophical Me
My basic philosophy CAN be summed up in a few sentences:
- Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Compassion takes strength and courage. Denying compassion means one is driven by fear.
- Believe what you want. But if you use your beliefs as an excuse for bad behavior, we have a problem.
- The only time that we have any influence over is now. Yesterday cannot be changed. Tomorrow is not yet written.
- My mind is not me, it is mine. My emotions are not me, they are mine. My body is not me, it is mine.
Some may have guessed that I am a active thinker. The list above is the basis of my life, but if one wanted more depth to my answers, just ask. No doubt you will get way more of an answer than you bargained for. My thoughts definitely run deep, and often push boundaries.
The Purposeful Me
Since I do not necessarily believe in intelligent design (I am still open to the possibility), I think that we all have to create our own purpose for life. It is not for someone else to tell us how … and WHY … we live our lives. Only we can decide this. If one seeks happiness … then one must first define what happiness means, then live a life that meets that definition. So what is MY life purpose?
I haven’t really decided yet. It could be that my life purpose is to decide my life purpose. But if I absolutely HAD to define it, I would say that I have decided to be a catalyst. I am at my best when I help other to be at THEIR best. If someone needs my help in any way and I am ABLE to provide said help … it is theirs. It could be as simple as an encouraging word, or as involved as laying my life on the line for them. That is who I have been to date, and when I slide from this I tend to fall into darkness.